Mistakes

There’s one thing that each one of us has done. Babies, kids, adults, old people, everyone makes a mistake in their life, at least once. The factual meaning of mistake is to make a wrong judgment of the character or ability of. We tend to make mistakes once in a while, but fail to make sure that we don’t do it again.

● What is a mistake?

The exact definition of a mistake has a bunch of meanings: an error in action, opinion caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient knowledge; a misunderstanding or misconception. We often regret making such decisions which eventually don't turn out in our favour. It is an action that is wrong or produces a wrong result which is unintentional.

● How do mistakes happen?

One of the most common situations in which mistakes and errors happen more frequently is when the pressure is high. We do know that pressure brings the best out of many, but in some cases it’s the opposite. In other situations, mistakes occur because of lack of confidence and discipline, whereas in others it’s because of over-confidence and lack of judgement.

● What happens after making a mistake?

The most obvious thing that happens after making a mistake is that we regret it. We feel embarrassed, ashamed and disappointed, which is normal. The hangover of the mistake goes on for the next couple of days and it becomes almost impossible to stop it. It’s necessary for us to allow us to make ourselves feel bad for what we have done, and then accept what has happened, but not for too long. Making a mistake isn’t the end of the world.

● What should be done after making a mistake?

The first thing we need to do after a mistake is allowing yourself to express emotions and assess and accept what has happened. Don’t feel bad about making a mistake for too long, as everyone is human and makes mistakes. In life when we make mistakes, there are always consequences. Many of us, including me try to defend ourselves (which is completely fine) and don’t accept the punishments or consequences. Avoiding punishments causes conflicts and worsens the matter even more. Accept the consequences and move on.

There is nothing wrong in apologising to the person for your mistake, and apologising cools down the matter. You’ve done your part of apologising and it’s up to the person if they want to forgive you or not. Make sure you don’t overdo the apologising if he/she doesn’t forgive you. They eventually will come over and accept the apology.

● What next?

The first thing that needs to be done is fixing the mistake you’ve made if possible, and making sure it doesn’t happen again. The best way to earn people’s trust is to deliver fantastic and flawless work consistently. Don’t just use your words to justify yourself, but actions. Regain the person’s trust by changing your plans and improving upon things that didn’t work out last time.

If the person doesn’t forgive you after apologising, give your best to improve your work, and eventually the trust between you and the person will be regained.

After some major mistakes, our mental health is affected and we hardly ever take care of it. We have to move on with our life. Taking too much stress does no good for us.

Mistakes were made and that’s alright, that’s okay. Mistakes are not the end of the world, and we always get a second chance to improve upon them. No one’s perfect and everyone makes mistakes. If you’re a mistake-maker then you should know that you’re not alone. Until next time, stay safe and healthy.

Adios.